By Sara Dobie Bauer<\/p>\n
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With the release of kINKED and my short story \u201cPainted Red,\u201d I add another story to my ever-growing list of erotic short fiction flying free in the world. I wasn\u2019t always like this. I used to write pretty PG-13. Then, I got older and stopped caring so much about what people thought. I started writing what I wanted to write \u2026 and apparently, I wanted to write about sex.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s true: I don\u2019t really care what people think of me. But they do<\/em> think things about me. Because I write erotica, I must wear leather and whipped cream all the time, right? Well, no. Let\u2019s have a chat, shall we?<\/p>\n Do people expect you to be super-sexed up? Slutty? Are you assumed to be more sexually open than you are?<\/strong><\/p>\n Yes\u2026 However, I am pretty sexed up in reality, so it\u2019s less an assumption and more a foregone conclusion. It\u2019s true, though: people do assume I\u2019m way more sexual than I really am. I think some of my readers believe I have a dungeon filled with floggers and chains. (I do not.) However, I am very comfortable with my sexuality and talk about it openly with my husband, so I have a very fulfilling sex life. I\u2019m not only assumed to be sexually open; I am <\/em>sexually open\u2014just not in the way people\u2019s imaginations might lead them to think.<\/p>\n Do people over share about their sex lives?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Yes. Always. However, so do I, so that\u2019s partially my fault. People read my stories and want to talk about what they\u2019ve read. I\u2019m not one to judge (I\u2019ll try anything twice), so I open the door for conversation and people tend to walk right through. It\u2019s amazing how much you can learn and apply to your own sex life just by talking with friends.<\/p>\n Do people expect you to be transparent about YOUR sex life? Like, supply them with wild stories of your sexual escapades at cocktails?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n I am transparent. Very much so. I love talking about sex, so I don\u2019t mind sharing stories. Plus, I\u2019m a writer; stories are kind of my gig. Sex is a human right, damn it. Everyone should be having it, and if you\u2019re not having it, you should be talking about it and learning about the newest positions\/toys\/kinks so that you\u2019re prepared to have tons of fun once you are having sex again.<\/p>\n Do you find yourself in the role of sex therapist?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Strangely, for men more than women. I have both married and single guy friends who want to know how they can get their wife to be wilder in the bedroom\u2014as if I\u2019m the expert because I write about crazy sex. Sometimes, my imagination just gets a bit out of control, but it\u2019s easy to assume that what I write is based on fact\u2014and some of it is. In \u201cPainted Red,\u201d my male lead has a tattoo fetish, as do I, so fiction does occasionally imitate life. (There\u2019s another bit in \u201cPainted Red\u201d that\u2019s autobiographical, too, but I\u2019m not telling you what it is.)<\/p>\n What keeps you interested in writing erotica? What\u2019s the draw for you?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n I love writing about two characters falling in love and getting laid. I just do. Falling in love (and falling in lust) is a huge part of the human experience. It\u2019s something we can all relate to, so I write to warm hearts, to entertain, but also to titillate. Why not? This world is so dark and destructive sometimes. Why not shine a sexy light?<\/p>\n Available\u00a0Now!<\/strong><\/p>\n Amazon (US<\/a>) (CA<\/a>) (UK<\/a>)<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What\u2019s life like as an erotica author? By Sara Dobie Bauer With the release of kINKED and my short story \u201cPainted Red,\u201d I add another story to my ever-growing list of erotic short fiction flying free in the world. I … Continue reading
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About the author:<\/strong> Sara Dobie Bauer is a writer, model, and mental health advocate with a creative writing degree from Ohio University. Her short story, \u201cDon\u2019t Ball the Boss,\u201d was nominated for the Pushcart Prize, inspired by her shameless crush on Benedict Cumberbatch. She lives with her hottie husband and two precious pups in Northeast Ohio, although she\u2019d really like to live in a Tim Burton film. She is author of the paranormal rom-com\u00a0Bite Somebody<\/em>, among other ridiculously entertaining things. Learn more at http:\/\/SaraDobieBauer.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n
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