Originally I planned to make E be about ‘Erotica vs. Porn’ but someone commented and asked what BDSM stood for and I thought “Oh. Bad, bad Cori. You should never assume people just know these things.” so I wanted to explain that instead (I’ll fit the erotica vs porn thing in later).
Firstly, what does BDSM stand for. Good question and, like most things, there is more than one answer 🙂 Most of the people I know say BDSM stands for bondage, domination, sadism and masochism but there are other answers too. Sometimes the d can stand for discipline, and the s and m bits can also be slave and master.
I was curious to see how Wikipedia defined BDSM and they said, in part:
BDSM has always been used as a catch-all phrase to include a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures. With an ethos of “your kink is OK!”
I am mostly including their definition because of the last bit. Your kink is OK. As long as it is safe, sane and consensual*, your kink is okay. I’m not trying to be prescriptive here at Cori Vidae and I understand that everything is highly individualized, especially when it comes to what gets you hot.
*Or risk-aware consensual kink but I tend to find that SSC is an easier concept for people new to kink to grasp.